The tearing and pain will probably get even worse in fact you may already be suffering from vaginismus, which is where your vagina fails to become open and lubricated in preparation for sex because previous pain has set up a protective reflex. Stop allowing penetration until you can fix this. We have been together almost 10 years and the tearing is getting worse. My husband is very understanding and gentle, and we do oral or manual stimulation, but I miss the intimacy of penetrative sex. Is there anything else we can do to avoid injury? It has reduced our sex life greatly, as it makes me nervous to initiate anything. This has only been a problem with my husband, not previous partners. That is the only advice I have ever found online and I am too embarrassed to ask my GP for help. We use silicone lubricant ( water-based dried up too quickly) and avoid certain positions, to no avail.
My husband has a big penis and every time we have sex my vulva tears.
